HARROD, Rose L.
September 12, 2013 5:41 AM
Some time ago, my mother said, "We need to write my obituary." I wrote what I considered an appropriate one, with heart and soul in it. (I enjoy writing and have been told I am good at it.) When I handed the obituary to my mother, she read it, pronounced it "fine,"and we moved on to something else. I thought the matter finished. Several weeks later, she handed me a handwritten "scrap," of paper, declaring, "What you wrote was terrible. Here's what I want." And here it is:
Rose L. Harrod passed away on September 5, 2013, at 91 years of age (the date and her age were left blank). Born in St. Francis Hospital in Santa Barbara, Rose was the daughter of Charles and Catherine Offredi. She lived in Santa Barbara all her life until February 2013, when she moved to Camarillo to live with her daughter and son-in-law. (I added the final clause.)
Rose was predeceased by her parents, her husband Chet Harrod, her daughter Judy Kahl, and her grandson Jordan Kahl. She is survived by her daughter Sandy Nirenberg (Dave), grandchildren Jay Nirenberg (wife Monica), Crosby Noricks and Mackenzie Kahl and great grandchildren, twins Chloe and Sophia Nirenberg.
Rose enjoyed doing volunteer work, playing bridge, and spending time with her family and friends. She was always available to help anyone in need and was a long-time member of the Channel City Club, Santa Barbara Women's Club and Riviera Association.
My mother and I had a tumultuous relationship. In retrospect, I am grateful for every day of it. Love was always there between us, though sometimes it showed itself in strange ways. In the end, we were able to say "please forgive me," "I forgive you" and "thank you," as well as "I love you." And when we said "good-bye" it was only a physical leave-taking.
No one is born alone. I believe no one should die alone. Rose/Mom died at home, surrounded by love and family. Rest in peace, sweet angel mama of mine?